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My fiance was just sentenced to three years in prison. Eight weeks before our first child is due. He was torn apart that he got so close to seeing his son and boom, he loses his only chance and will miss out on much time and so many moments. But every night I pray for strength to get through this and YES IT DOES HELP. Just write and visit as much as possible and it wont hurt so bad. And be greatful he's not dead and you still have eachother. You do the crime you do the time.
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12/20/2011 7:56:28 AM
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Barbie
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Barbie.lm25@gmail.com
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Hi, I am from Chile (South America) and I have a friend doing time in Menard. I was wondering if I write to him will he receive the letter? Thanks....
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8/4/2011 4:57:42 PM
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His backbone
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I'm new to this also. My fiance just got found guilty of a crime he did not commit. He was offered 15 years but would not admit to something he did not do and in return got sentenced to 45 years. I most definately believe in "you do the crime you do the time" but what happens when a person is innocent?
The court system is far from fair and targeted at black and latino men...if you are a black man you should not be subjected to an all white jury. I am not at all racist in any way but do you see white men getting stuck with an all black jury? Never saw or heard of that happening. No gun, no fingerprints, no robbery, no identification, no personal relationship to the victim; hell, they did not even know each other.
The day the verdict was read there were no dry eyes in the court room, but to his public defender, there was tears. She came back and told me the state knew he didn't do it and that they were just looking for a conviction. I struggle everyday with 3 kids whose only question is when is daddy coming home. I pray everyday for his saftey and this appeal. I love you kt and your family knows you're innocent.
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I was in Menard 5yrs of a 12 year bit,(1986 to 1991). I lost 6 years good time and got stabbed once. I went down for armed robbery life in there was hard and it made me a harder man. I have been out almost 12 years now and have to lie to find work, I can't hold a relationship with a woman and my life is worse than it was before I went in.
I have a class A CDL and my past keeps getting me fired or not considered. When does it end? NEVER.
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I got busted 40 years ago when I was 18. Even though I obtained my GED and began college while still in Menard I found out that rehabilitation comes from within.
I'm very lucky because it was my first offense and it was an armed robbery and I got off with 5 years. Upon release I got back into college. Sure I had to put up with some of the "eye of suspicion" even at the liberal institution I attended but I stuck with it and I have had a degree for a long time now and I've never hid my past from anyone no matter that it was a long time ago.
My advice: Use that time to improve yourself even if only in a small way as any improvement will come in handy when you hit the streets. And do it no matter how old or young you are. Good luck everyone.
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can someone tell me a bit bout parramatta jail my partner just got moved there???
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Hey my dad is in this prison and he been in there since i was about the age of 2 and now im 14 he gets out around 2042 i dont think i will ever go see him again the last time i saw him was last year and i miss him he is currently in menard =[
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I've been dealing with a man in menard for 10 years now and it's all because he did something stupid. He had a fight with an old man in a liquor store and killed him unintentionally. They faught and he defended himself. He hit the man the last time and the guy had a heart attack. Later on that day he found out the guy died. The judge gave him 60years. Yes, he's remorseful but has been locked up for 11years. He's not asking to get out today but he's been asking to get time reduced. The judge gave him the maximum because it was a older man and because he is black and a young man.
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im fixing to go for 8 to 13 years in prison its pretty hard becuse i just turned 18 like a month ago and when i got in trouble i was only 17 but i got to be a man now and deal with it but when i get out you will never see me sell drugs again.And something you can learn from this is to never trust anybody except your parents.
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being locked up for 3yr for udcs has changed my life. i have been stripped, broken, and shattered. I have two children that I have not saw in this three years. Thank God it is about over.
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Dear Ms. Lewis,
I have a feeling that sending explicit pictures won't make his ordeal better at all in the long run; in fact it will probably make it worse. Since you are engaged to be married, walking away is probably neither the easiest nor the best thing to do.
You still love him, right? The next time you visit him, you need to have a long talk. You need to plan out how to be in contact and stay together without anyone getting hurt-in the short run or in the long run. You have to be gentle, genuinely concerned, and loving as well as understanding (as much as this is possible). However, be firm when you feel a certain way, no matter what that way is. Don't be mean or blunt, just honest and sensitive.
Discuss your future and how it will be affected. Discuss how he can survive (and not only that, but thrive as well) in prison and make it turn out to be something for the better.
P.S. All of this is coming from someone who has an extreme sense of empathy and who wants to reach out and really help people. I hope my message has helped you in some way or another-you can contact me through treali-storm@comcast.net.
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Hi I'm new to this, so bare with me, I also agree with the others ladies about having failies and learning to deal with it. But I have a question for you ladies, my fiance is a paraplegic in prison and he is constantly writng me to send money and also explicit pictures is this normal? My e-mail is egemain@yahoo.com. Please someone give me some advise on what to do. Should I just walk away or what?
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I am wife to inmate serving a year, and I am a single mother too. I have two young girls who also need their father. But you can't take back what he did. Your husband has to serve his time for what he did. Everyone has a family and most of them have kids. My advice would be to write, take your kids to visit, and pray. We have 2 weeks till my husband is released and we made it thru. So will you.
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ouch is right...and its true..im sure he does have a family, but so does 80% of the prison population, does that mean they should all be released too? if your that concerned take your kids to see daddy at a conjugal visit.
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To Eleanor, I guess you should have married someone who wasn't a criminal. Your husband is in prison for a reason and you are quite naive to think he's the only one who has a family.
Grow up and take responsibility for your bad choices.
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PRAYER,FASTING AND FAITH CHANGES THINGS. WITH THIS COMES PATIENCE WHICH ONE HAS TO ENDURE A LOT. I AM A GIRLFRIEND OF ONE WHO IS DOING TIME HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION IS MUCH MORE SERIOUS AND MY ADIVCE TO YOU IS TO PRAY. HOW LONG IS HIS SENTENCE/ IF YOU DONT MIND? I'M SURE THERE IS A WAY FOR YOU AND THE GIRLS TO VISIT HIM. FIND OUT TRY TOG ET INFO ON THE PRISON. BEST THING TO DO IS GET THE GIRLS TO WRITE THEIR DAD. AS SAID BY MANY INMATES IT BRINGS JOY WHEN THEY RECIEVE LETTERS FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS. I'M SURE YOUR HUSBAND WOULD BE DELIGHTED! GOD BLESS BE BLESS DONT LIVE LIFE IN DISTRESS. THOUGH WE GET WEARY IN OUR TRIBULATIONS GOD DOES NOT WANT US TO GIVE UP ON HIM AND DONT YOU GIVE UP MY FRIEND.
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I am a wife of an inmate that I truly think deserves to be in a position to have his time reduced for the simmple fact that this inmate has children and he needs to be in their lives. They are girls that are truly upset that they cannot see their father at all. Their lives have been hell because they miss their father. Can someone please help me with this situation? By the grace of god my children need to see their father. I do not have the money to send because I am a single parent raising three daughters. Is there any kind of way that I can get some help? And no matter what my husband was convicted of I still Love him and miss him.
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